Most of us have a number of different roles in life. For example, I’m a wife, mother, friend, nurse, musician, and speaker. I’ve had to develop a clear grid for prioritizing the demands of these different roles. Many people want my help, and many “pitches” are thrown my way.
But I’ve discovered that it’s not necessarily my responsibility to swing just because someone throws me a ball. Can you imagine a batter who swings at every pitch? That’s a great way to strike out a lot!
I used to be frazzled by the obligation I felt to handle every task thrown my way. What a relief it has been to realize I don’t need to swing at every pitch someone tosses to me.
People will try to lure you into shouldering their responsibilities and solving their problems, especially if you are a leader. Then they’ll try to make you feel guilty when you’re unable to handle the tasks they throw your way.
I’m all too familiar with this scenario. I hate to let people down or tell them I simply don’t have the time or energy to take on the task they want to give me. It has been hard for me to admit my limitations, for I would much rather be “Superwoman” and have an unlimited capacity to help people.
But now I can tell you with great certainty: When you automatically swing at every pitch, you will find yourself overwhelmed, resentful and burnt out. It’s no fun, and a sure prescription for unhappiness, anxiety, and depression.
Now that I have started choosing my pitches more carefully, filtering them through my mission statement and goals. I have far fewer strikeouts and many more base hits and home runs.
Don’t be afraid to say no at times. Quit feeling guilty if you don’t have the time or energy to help people in every situation. It’s alright to focus!
What about you?
What responsibilities are you shouldering merely out of guilt or a fear of what people will think of you?
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